Yeah i figure out what the problem was. for some reason if you are using the n900's IM feature (im using msn haze and skype) and they are activated it does not updated ur mail automaticaly unless u press the send/recive button. But if you go offline on the IM then you autimaticaly start reciving mail on your N900 as it comes to your inbox. to me it seems like the IM and Email are clashing somehow.