The included syncml does not really do that, it ks more of a transfer contacts over bluetooth system.

i just got my n9 and seek the same setup. I found that someone named Ove has compiled syncevolution for harmattan, and i installed it yesterday, but havent had a chance to copy my config from n900 yet to test it out. Btw, it is command line only.

i think the link to the package was.on a thread on fmc.

supposedly contacts and calendar work, but i havent done it yet.