For Windows XP, I have these two installed on my computer:

tightvnc-1.3.10-setup
dfmirage-setup-1.1.68.2 (I love this. It makes the screen on the tablet refresh faster and prevents any screen tearing).

On the tablet, I install VNC Viewer.

Not exactly what you're asking, but it makes a great addition to your other requests, plus it's super easy.

Good luck.