No one has to strain to see it between any lines. I'm seeing too much of it.

Maybe your tolerance threshold for pointless, damaging *****ing and sniping is higher than mine. I don't want a politically correct council, but I don't want public discussion polluted by dirty laundry, either.

Grown ups find a respectable middle ground.

I've done this stupid egotistical axle-wrapping, too, here and elsewhere. Totally guilty. But after the humiliating revelation that I've let personal issues get in the way of serving the community, I have found that a private discussion with my fellow combatant(s) solely over the personality issues serves us and the community better. Without a gladiator gallery bolstering the egos and helping to polarize the discussion, it's easier to find root cause of dissension/disagreement and identify common ground. Then return to the community better equipped to get things done.