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Accordingly to the basic information, there is no setting for vibration-when-plugging charger in; only some settings for vibration when receiving calls (and for touch screen vibration-feedback). However, I don't know how this works, I don't have a N9, so I'm not sure whether there is a way to change this.
Best wishes. Maybe, somebody else knows the answer?
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