What did you expect? We are the maemo community. We are by definition maemo users. We are here because we use our N900's and our N9's and we like them better than iPhones. If it wasn't like that we wouldn't be here.

To see from what this community is made of go to the "Should I buy a N9xx or an $phone?" threads. You'll find amazingly honest people there, to the point that almost half the posters tell people to buy $phone, despite their personal love for the N9xx.

But telling us that the phones we use, program for, and discuss in our free time are not the best for us wouldn't be met with enthusiasm that's a given. It's not that your phone defines you as you say, it's that in your statement lies the implication "You don't know what's good for you, I know better". Do I need to list all the devices I've been using as primary phones to my signature to not sound like a fanboy? You'll be surprised by what many of the users/contributors around here use.

Finally you can't blame everybody for not trying the iPhone and having a half baked idea of what it is, as long as it is a niche device which costs way more than it's specs justify (like all apple products). So everybody makes an educated guess as what is better for him/her without first spending 750€ and then some more for the "best apps for $activity" and for some people the investment doesn't seem worthy. Add to that cost the investment in time and knowledge some people have put on maemo and the switch is even more difficult.

Now I've got to go, I have a reservation at Dorsia ;-)