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already partially solved my problem. All I needed was some rest.

original post here:
http://pastebin.com/32kMMpGD

Fixed stuff:
savestates/memcard now work for pcsx-r


remaining problem:
Valkyrie Profile is unplayable on psx4m, phone freezes on New Game

other remarks:

Valkyrie Profile runs at a nice fps rate (if I'm reading it right, it's around 50-60 on dialogs and 30-50 on battles) (not full screen, with sound) There would be a few hiccups but they just last a second. This is on the pcsx-r, just default settings.

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full screen mode, sound on, default pcsx-r settings
dialog scenes: 55-60 fps
battle scenes: 30-55 fps