That did the trick. At least sms notification worked and music tracks, so far that i tested. Forgot it is a new N900 I got since I last installed Maebble, so none of the original install instruction steps had been done.

But had a mother of weirdness, Apt-get couldn't find the lists file

Nokia-N900:/opt/var/lib/apt# ls
extended_states keyrings lists.old periodic

so it couldn't lock it. I had to rename lists.old to lists and it all worked again. weird stuff!

The desktop icon still appears to do nothing? maybe i need to look at the steps again, now manually it works.

thanks for the help so far!