Sorry, I am not sure if I understand you right. If you are accusing me of being selfish (the very thing I was indeed bemoaning) then... you may well be right, but that's not what I meant.

It's like you were saying that there are millions of friendly people in the streets singing happy songs and giving flowers to strngers. I say, that may be so, but all I can see in my street are rowdy drunks shouting abuse. Their noise drowns out any sound of singing from other streets.

(Yes, I know. A simple solution: move house. Trust me, I would if my family agreed.)