Sorry for the misunderstanding. I doubt there will be a solution that will meet your requirements until Apple decidee to come out with some nice polished software product (for the iPhone/iTouch only, I'm assuming) that is designed specifically to interact with your Mac in the user friendly manor you desire. Maybe they already have?

I bought my NIT knowing it was a hackers toy. While others gripe about things that don't work quite right and/or too awkward to use, I marvel at all the things I have been able to do with it after [unfortunately] a little bit of work. That said, I keep getting reminded when pulling up program interfaces designed for a mouse that a mouse is NOT like a touch screen. There are lots of funny things I've never thought about until now.