Okay thanks guys..after having tried a number of the ones in the repositories, and ALL of the ones suggested to me by you guys, here's my findings..

I SEEM TO (time will tell & I'll report if its just a short-lived romance) really LIKE:

- Canola
and
- YouAmp

I remember when I first got the n810 couple months back I tried Canola but the interface was so different from what I expect on a PC that I was instantly turned off... but now that I'm more used to seeing different ways of interfacing with all these different maemo apps, I tried it again after your suggestions.

The player works great, able to choose different themes (granted the themes available are limited) but it can see and list all my files, audio and video, once I've specified which folder in which area Canola should look for them. It listed them all great, and then I tried the youtube app within Canola and that worked great too! Yes there's a little wait for loading time but its a nice easy simply interface.. volume, full-screen and not, and the ability to download the video once its fully loaded..nice.

Youamp instantly worked great, a REALLY simple but EASY to SEE and USE main interface..easily the easiest to SEE (ie name, artist, album, etc...)

UKMP while looking snazzy on the maemo site, didn't even work (second time ive tried)

Media box - I LIKE the fact that its on its side (ie portrait instead of landscape), but for me (personal opinion) it took longer to configure things and for the program itself to start up, took longer than Canola. Canola also has not only a youtube app, but a flickr app which i've yet to try but sounds interesting, and also a last.fm and online radio and podcast capabilities...very nice.

The rest...Well, I've yet to try some of the more obscure sounding ones like GPE Audio player and kilikali..

but yeah THOSE are my FINDINGS so far..

Until something better comes along, I'm keeping Canola and Youamp installed and ready to use in my n810!

Thanks again for your ideas guys, and please, if anyone has any other suggestions feel free to post a reply to let me know what you think.

Cheers!