if this is the impression you get, it should be addressed. - get a different one!

no, seriously, that should never happen on tmo. whenever you see this kind of behaviour, tell the developer on the other end of the line that this isn't what you expected. it may well be that he or she isn't even aware of the issue.

i have to say that personally, i never felt the devs didn't want me here. quite on the contrary, most of them are very nice when explaining problems and reacting to feedback. but this may of course depend on the threads and topics that attract your attention. tmo is quite a big place. there may well be different cultures here meanwhile, depending on which kind of content you follow.