The problem you're facing, eyn, is more lack of forum filtering than anything. I don't see every member responding the way you say they have, just some. You're liable to receive a diverse array of feedback here, and that can be highly affected by how the original questions/comments are phrased.

There's a simple filter too: post count and karma rankings (Thanks). They're not perfect indicators, but they can help you distinguish sometimes between signal and noise.