They didn't give me the job more than I gave them my body. Jobs aren't given... we're not talking charity here. If you've got a job it's because you're worth it, not because someone gave it to you.

Employments are agreements between two parts, where one part agrees to pay money and the other part agrees to produce results. That agreement includes what they want me to produce, but how I do should be up to me. If I needed my employer to tell me how to do my stuff, we would probably both be better off if I worked somewhere else.

My employer own the results I produce (since that's what they pay me for), not the documents/scripts/tools/whatever I use along the way to produce those results, and definitely not my conversations with other people.