Again: we are largely self-moderating. That's not arguable-- it is the way it is by design. We try to avoid escalating issues if possible. Overall, it's better if cooler heads from the community lead by example and admonish others who cross the line than for a handful of moderators such as myself interfere in every single entanglement.

EDIT: "self moderating" does not automatically mean every member has moderator abilities. Rather, it refers to ensuring decorum.