Its not a stupid post. I'm on the same moment. I didn't had N97 but I feel the same, exactly. On tuesday I will start testing my new HTC Desire. N900 has an excellent HW but I need a phone that really has a productive and stable SW. The email is powerful but needs better implementation. Got the same camera problem and in that case I need to reboot because "pulseaudio" starts eating battery. I paied a lot for it and need problems be solved quickly.
Been with Nokia since I have phone. It's time to open my mind.
Probably will sell my N900 or have it to see if finally becomes better than other alternatives. I think it has the chance to be the best phone, but probably we will have to wait to MeeGO. .