I think it's easy: wait for pr1.2 update. If the "troll" threads tend to disappear, then n900 will be THE great phone you (and all of we) thought it was when purchased. So you could buy one and enjoy it.
If threads don't disappear... this is not a conspiracy against Nokia, this is the feeling of LOTS of non-linux-geeks users disliking it.
N900 CAN be the number one, but now it's the number three.