I am still having no luck I have downloaded the flasher program put a new battery in and tried the flash via command line in windows.

As soon as I put the battery in it starts that damn loop and will not get out it telling me that is installing software do not bother it.
Holding the u key down while plugging in the usb I see the usb symbol at the top of the screen as soon as I run flasher-3.5.exe -F RX-51_2009SE_3.2010.02-8_PR_COMBINED_MR0_ARM.bin
another command window pops up runs through some stuff real fast for a couple of seconds then back to the loop again.