i understand how you feel, when basic functionality that you were probably used to on earlier phones is broken...

i have had the same feelings as you, but i keep seing light at the end of the tunel, pr 1.2 seems to have some things for me...

in particular the camera and internet radio were 2 areas which were turning me off the n900.

i would stay away from apple if i was you, android is the way to go, imo.

i personally will hold on a bit longer as there are quite of lot of projects ongoing... so we might see some interesting tools soon.

would be nice to also see android 2.2 on the n900

all the best