This reply is a bit late so appologies everyone.
I've discovered that some of my apps (don't know which ones) had something to do with my problems, i've noticed since i reinstalled pr1.2 via nokia pc suit that my phone performed great, i ran back up but only for my contacts and a couple of stable apps that i kno are ok. some of the others arn't even available anymore even at ovi store which says to me that they arn't compatable with pr1.2 but you can retrieve thenm by restore in application manager which is what i did first time round and caused me a headache.
So... if anyone else has similar problems don't restore your apps via backup, make a note of them instead and just search and install one by one if they're still available for pr1.2
One more thing, fmms still not working on vodafone since update but i'm not the only one, any clues on how to fix be very appreciated
Nath