I figured you dont really hate Nokia rather you love her too much that you want everything running on N900 developed by Nokia.

However, Im afraid I've to remind you the cruel reality that majority of the default packages come with N900 are not branded with Nokia.

If you want a phone runs 100% apps officially from Nokia then you must have bought the wrong phone.

The problems you listed can be summarized as "I bought the wrong phone for myself so I can't stop myself yelling". My condolence.