Glad to have gotten such a response from this thread!

I'm still not very excited about using VNC as I really want to mimic something more like the Sonos remote. However, BrowserTunes seems to fit the bill I think.

That being said, I started playing with FrontRow today (hacked version) and if that works over VNC it would be AMAZING and I'd be more than happy about that... althought still not sure VNC is completely usable for my wife or other non-tech savy users.... then again if it didn't require a password and I just saved the profile, it may work fine.