OK after my rage fit I finally got it working.

What a complicated system! And totally unintuitive to use. Just unsuable without instructions or a manual. Also, how can you add anything to your Jabber.org account? If you're fine with using online services, then using your Jabber.org account for Jappix.com works, but if you want it on your phone, skip making a Jabber.org account all together.

ARGH still a bit fustrated even its working now.