Originally Posted by gilamonyet

The strenght of facebook is getting connected with people you lost contact with.

Originally Posted by sulu

You don't lose contact with people*. You just don't care for keeping contact (and maybe later you'll regret it). It's no inevitable destiny, it's your very own free decision.
Therefore if you feel the need to find someone from your past via a centralized platform like facebook, there must have been something in the past that made you lose contact, something that made you not to care for keeping contact. This is usually for a good reason. If you later regret it, that reason might have not been so good in the first place. So without facebook and co. people might be more attentive when it comes to making social decisions.

*) If you're old enough to know how to exchange contact information.

Originally Posted by gilamonyet

It just happens that sometimes there are different things that are more important, thus not having time to keep contact.

Originally Posted by sulu

I can't think of anything that might be more important than to keep contact with people I care about.
Also I don't have time. I take time.

Originally Posted by gilamonyet

Sure, but lets face it. Keeping in contact can't be done alone.

Originally Posted by gilamonyet

Ive had a friend for example who had to leave the country because of his dad.
His dad was very sick, so my friend went there to spend the last few weeks his dad had.
While in that proces we both tried to keep in contact but he had a lot on his mind and the contact slipped away.

Originally Posted by gilamonyet

Weeks went past and at some point we both never actually took the step to contact each other again.

Originally Posted by gilamonyet

In the end its about how you use something to make it useful or not.

Originally Posted by sulu

Nothing social can be done alone. Both sides have to be interested, otherwise it doesn't work, no matter which medium you use.

Up to this point I can understand your situation. There are always situations that might interfere with your social contacts, but if you really care for those contacts you'll sooner or later reactivate them anyways, at least when your contact data changes.

Why not? This is what I don't understand.

I'm not saying that Facebook is useless. I'm just saying that you don't need it to get in contact with people from your past, because either you still know ho to contact them using other ways or they are people from the past for good reasons.

I'm pretty sure you would have either found a way to contact your friend anyway, or you wouldn't mind if you could not have reestablished the contact. Facebook might have made that easier, but I don't think it was necessary.
I have two friends that I haven't met for years and we don't even speak with each other regularly - just because we have no common topics anymore. All three of us have moved several times since we've been in close contact, but we still know how to contact each other - without facebook or similar means.