I just think/guess/hope that the average N900 user is a GNU/Linux fan, and is used to partecipate in other communities as well.

The same average user (or a part of them), prefers to fix problem by itself, and do not cry.

Here you have to wait for the next PR upgrade, hoping that nokia developers decided to fix/implement what you need, so peoples start waiting and crying.
On the next PR 1.2 you'll not get voice assisted navigation? ringtone customizable by contact? they will start again to wait and cry for the PR 1.3.

Now, if you want to stop crying you:

1) announce definitively that maemo/meego will be supported/improved on the n900 for years, so enjoy your device, and next upcoming major software release.

or:

2) open definitively the developing process (opening sources of some/all core parts, publish git upstream repository, etc.) and let the community develop what needed (and have benefit on that) and say : "ok, meego will never be released for the n900, but no problem, we'll build and support it with a community fork, or a completely new OS as there is really a good and live freesmartphone stack available)".

The third (we will not support you, and do not open anything) for me is unacceptable.

Ignoring the first one, IMHO will shut in the head Nokia, as you may see apple verticalization and device OS upgrade on older iphone 2g should be a great example of good marketing and user satisfaction.

About the second one, there are EXPLICIT example of the fact this is possible and feasable, OpenMoko stopped to support the freerunner, Nokia/Trolltech stopped Qtopia development, well, we have community fork of Qtopia plus debian and OpenEmbedded based distro that are going on with fast and hard development. All that for free and based only on voluntary community effort.
They are working on palm pre, htc too, what's a pity that FSO guys were not able to get an N900 with a discount, for sure we get an N900 initial support too.

Why is this so hard to understand?

Niko